Love Notes To Myself

Working at the same company as my ex-husband sometimes leads to difficult and tricky situations.

For instance, it has recently come to light that he is sleeping with one of his direct reports, herself recently divorced.  His move-in girlfriend moved out, and he took up with this gal who is half his age, the age of his daughter. 

In order to keep myself on track I have resorted to sending myself love notes via email.   

Others have expressed concern for my feelings, thinking that I might interpret their behavior as a reflection on me.  Exposing their relationship has had the opposite effect.  I feel totally free and vindicated.  What they do is their business except where it overlaps into the professional arena, but it clearly shows a pattern in HIS behavior. 

Unfortunately, overlap happens in the most subtlest of forms.  For instance, a group of us go to lunch for birthdays.  She is a member of the club, and she will be asked, but everyone hopes she will decline.  It would just be too awkward with her there.  As for me, there has already been a breach of trust with her - things said in confidence were passed on, and got back to me. 

Anyway, here is my first "love note to myself", entitled "Grace and Dignity"

Grace and Dignity

It has nothing to do with me and everything to do with him and her.
Being in close proximity to him is toxic to someone with even the slightest vulnerability.

He is an opportunist and a predator, his latest conquest only his most recent victim.


Keep your head up, shoulders back, eyes straight ahead.


And remember. You are a beautiful woman.